Surrogate Motherhood Does Not Create Relationships, It Tears Them Apart

Matthew Eppinette

Karen, a friend who watches over the Facebook page for a film Jennifer Lahl and I made, “Anonymous Father’s Day,” recently posted a HuffPost Personal article titled, “I Chose To Be A Surrogate Mother. I Didn’t Know It Would Break My Heart.”

The author, Lindsay, became a surrogate mother in her early 20s, without ever having children of her own. Her first pregnancy was a surrogate pregnancy. It was a traditional rather than gestational surrogacy, meaning she used her own egg rather than a donor egg. She did another surrogate pregnancy, giving birth for the second time 15 months later, before having a child that she kept “as a single mom by choice.”

A number of ethical issues are glaringly evident in her case, some of which the author freely acknowledges. For example, she admits that in becoming a surrogate mother without having given birth previously she was “throw[ing] convention to the wayside,” and that in doing a second surrogacy so soon after the first, “Any therapist would tell you I was recreating trauma to gain some semblance of control over the situation the second time around.”

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